I agree with MJB's perspective that this really isn't much of a problem as long as players communicate with each other. By asking if it's their initiative to play an enhancement it gives their opponent an opportunity to play a dominant first. By asking if their opponent wants to play a dominant, it does the same thing.
Sure it might clue your opponent that you are likely to play a dominant, but there are a few other considerations. Firstly, I usually know when my opponent is about to play Mayhem anyway because they have cleared their hand on a previous turn. So them asking me if I want to play a dominant after I draw my 3 cards isn't really giving anything away. Secondly, just because someone asks if I want to play a dominant doesn't mean that they will. They could be psyching me out to get me to use the cards in my hand sub-optimially out of fear of their coming dominant that never materializes. This adds to the strategy of the game.
In any event, at our tournaments (as well as the ones we've been to in OH and TN) we don't seem to have these problems. We also have a National Champion in our playgroup as well as a dozen other people who placed in the top 10 in something at Nats last summer. So our group can surely be competitive at times. But more importantly, we are brothers and sisters in Christ, and we are all friends. At the end of the day, fellowship is more important, and we enjoy hanging out together.
For anyone interested, we'll be having a state tournament this weekend, and you all welcome to come join us and see it for yourself
