Please Pray

[Chronic Apathy]

Well, this is something I've been asking my close friends to pray for, so I may as well ask you guys too. I decided today to call and converse with an old friend of mine who happens to be my ex-girlfriend. I'll spare you the details on why we broke up, but it was fairly mutual, but less than clean. However, over the next two months, I attempted to remain friends with her, and at one point, we almost went out again. However, due to some personal issues of my own, I couldn't bring myself to continue the friendship with her, so I more-or-less cut off contact. I tried again twice to revive it over the next 2 months, to no avail, so I finally just vowed to never talk to her outside of normal social gatherings (we're in the same youth group). I realized last week I miss her, and I'm attempting to keep this one without any drama or anything that'll make me regret my decision. Please pray that all will go smoothly and we can have a strong friendship (and Lord willing, something more later on possibly). Even with the last 6 months, she's a dear friend of mine and I'd do almost anything for her.

Thanks,
Chris

[Prof Underwood]

*Spoiler Alert*
The following post is based purely on Prof's personal experience and should not be taken as straight from scripture advice (although it is definitely not contrary to scriptural teachings).








When I was dating, I had many rules that I followed.  One of them was that if a relationship ever ended with a girlfriend for any reason, then I would never go back.  I would still be friends with that girl (and in fact, I was always able to pull that off), but we would never return to being a couple.  My reason was that if we were unable to resolve differences as a couple, then we would also be unable to resolve differences after being married, and divorce has never been an option for me.

In addition, I have known a LOT of people who have been in on-again, off-again dating relationships, and probably about 1% of those have actually ended up working out for the long-term.  Play the odds.  Don't go back.

[The Guardian]

I can't say I agree 100% with Prof on that. I have seen a few situations like that where it ended up working out (as in, the couple got back together and are now happily married). I believe the reason they might not have worked the first time was that it wasn't God's timing, which the couple realized, and knew they needed to step back a bit. I don't have personal experience with this, but I do have personal experience with the importance of waiting for God's timing in everything, I would say that's the first step in having a meaningful and lasting relationship.

As for your specific situation, I would say focus on the friendship first and let God handle the "something more."

[jarfunkle]

I have to agree with the Guardian on this one.  I've been there and it's a tough place to be.  Stay in prayer and keep the friendship, but don't smother her.  You both need some space probably.

[seeker]

Bummer man i will keep you in my prayers.

[BaseBall]

praying man