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Idk if this should be on here or prayer forum.

Well, I am 14 and I have several friends that are girls and just recently one told me that she likes me. Like, you know, a lot. I'm not sure what I should do and I think it would be a good idea to ask for advice before I do anything. I know that some of you are married and some of you are girls. Any advice?

I wasn't planning on it.

Personally, If she does ask you out on a date say that I would rather get to know you better as a friend than go out.

I'm pretty close to your age so I'm just saying that at our age relationships of that source don't last to long if they aren't christian based on both sides. Good Luck and listen to god for the right choice.

Well, she hasn't asked me out and I haven't talked to her since. Kinda busy. We are both Christans CJ. When did dating come into the mix? I didn't say anything about that. No offense, I appreciate the help. Thank you for the help guys!

I didn't say you were going out I said if she asked you out, and I'm happy that your both Christians because that might make the situation easier.

No I was answering your question.

Well, I can say this much: I've been in her shoes. Luckily for me, it "worked out", at least, for almost two years, which is quite longer than your average relationship between young teenagers.

From my experience, my best advice is stay friends. Friendship is soooo important. While I carry no regrets, it would have probably been wiser if we had just continued the friendship and waited awhile before being 'in a relationship'.  

I won't say to not date her, however, I would be very, very, VERY cautious about what you say/do in this situation. Your words and actions say a lot, and the closer you get, the easier it is to hurt one another. Hurt feelings are not fun; believe me, I've spent the past six and a half months getting over the hurt caused by breaking up.

You've stated that you aren't looking to date right now, which is a sign of maturity. Most people 'our' age don't take dating seriously, and I'm glad to see that you do. Something I would highly recommend for you to do right now is set your physical boundaries, because it is much harder to set them after you've already started the dating process. Obviously, abstinence is key, but I'm talking more specifically about holding hands, snuggling, kissing, etc. I personally have chosen to abstain from kissing until I'm married, and it's one of the best choices I've ever made. Now, that may not be the right thing for you because everyone is different, but I would highly encourage you to figure out what your 'thing' is in regards to boundaries. Perhaps talk to your parents or pastor about it, but more importantly, pray about it. Ask God what's best for you in this area.

If you have any more specific questions or just want a female perspective on something, feel free to PM me.

~Britta        

Thank you for all of your help guys and Britta!