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I have one of those decks I hope to use if I can find some players

Florida has some wonky meta.  I'd love to see you guys on ROOT to see how your out-of-the-box thinking works against the top decks.

Would it be mean to say it doesn't/won't?

Not so much mean, as just prejudiced.  I wouldn't count it out until I've seen it in action.  I'm skeptical, but definitely not confidant enough to say that it won't.

Matt,

I think that everyone is trying to help you here. I'm not trying to put you down or anything by suggesting you try another game. I was just trying to point out that if not being successful at a card game helps perpetuate your negative self-image, it may be better to reevaluate your involvement in the game. Matt, you are a good person and have more worth than you can see in yourself right now. Take some time and pray about what is best for you and look into talking with a pastor and/or counselor to help you overcome these challenges you are facing. Its frustrating on our end because we do care about you as much as one can, but you need to care about yourself. Jesus said, "to love your neighbor as you love yourself" you can't love your neighbor unless you love yourself first. I'm just trying to help. I hope this post does.

I only read the first and last pages of this thread, but my input on the few topics mentioned:

1) Giving someone your decklist, all in all, isn't going to matter.

--- Being someone that has had deck strategies copied over and over again, as well as directly countered, it all in all does not matter. If the other player is going to build a deck simply to counter yours, then he's not a threat to the ranking in the first place. If he beats you, fair enough. Odds are he won't beat the others, while you very well can.

--- If a player is honestly going to use your decklist against you... He's not a good player. A good player builds a deck that is prepared for any situation and isn't stopped in the dust by another deck.

2) The majority of people on these boards will help you with whatever you need.

--- Though we cannot read your mind. If you want/need help, ask for it. There is no shame at all in messaging someone to ask "What am I doing wrong? Why can't I win with this deck?" When I switched over to Type-2 for the first time, the guys from Georgia (especially Tyler Stevens) helped me with my deck building skills that I STILL use today. I played in their tournaments occasionally, yet they still helped me get better and thus become more of a challenge for them. Most of us on here don't JUST care about winning. I personally love a game that is down to the wire, a nail biter, and simply challenging.

3) Florida has wack metagame?

--- Say whaaaaaat? Since when is the Southeast capable of coming up with (or perfecting) crazy new ways to play? (I'm looking at you Clift... SitC<3 )

Florida has some wonky meta.  I'd love to see you guys on ROOT to see how your out-of-the-box thinking works against the top decks.

Yes, yes we do. I may or may not be completely proud of this.

By request of Matt, I would like to add some pretty important information to this thread.

I have been talking to him today about a major aspect of his attitude. I've noticed he tends to see people here as "players" rather than people. He said he has noticed he tends to view people as part of the hobby he associates them with, rather than individuals who happen to share an interest with him. I told him that I felt this social distance he creates is only hurting his relationships with people outside of his "inner circle" of friends.

I then tried to figure out why this happens. He told me that a close friend majorly betrayed him in front an entire class in high school (not going into details here), and then within the same year his father died. He said this whole chain of events shattered his ability to trust and/or get close to people. I had known about his father dying, but this other story was new to me... and it helped explain a lot more about his behaviors. I know the effects that rapid fire tragedies and embarrassments  can have on people, especially at that age.

I asked him to discuss this stuff with his counselor next time, but I ask that you all please consider this when you talk to Matt, and help him deal with this issue if you can.

Praying for you Matt.

Ditto.  I think that this is the best option currently.

If you are interested in helping Matt, please read this post.

I have long thought that Matt needed to be actively reading God's Word and seeking to more fully understand the LORD's love for us and how we are to live in spite of that. For years I have encouraged and prayed for Matt to read his Bible.

In the past 3 weeks, Matt has started to read his Bible some, as a result of the Holy Spirit prompting me to ask Matt to do so. Bible reading has not been a regular part of his life. He has started reading Luke per my suggestion, as I felt led to recommend that Gospel as it really emphasizes the love that Jesus has for us. Matt and I have had 4 different discussions about the chapters he is reading over Skype in the past several weeks, with each conversation spanning over an hour. I can tell that Matt is learning from these times of Bible discussion. Matt has openly admitted some of his weaknesses that he has recognized as a result of discussing Scripture and we have been praying together that Matt would change.

During these weeks I have been praying almost every day for Matt and for God to reveal His love to Matt and to change Matt. I am 100% convinced now that Matt's growth in his understanding of the Bible and how we are to live as believers is paramount to him moving past this juncture in life that he is at.

There are two specific ways I am asking for help from you as the body of Christ.

1. Please join me in praying as I am for him.
2. Matt hasn't had believers take the time to discuss Scripture with him before now. I think we ought to do our part to spur him on to good works.
 The reality is that I don't have an hour of time every day to spend discussing the Bible with Matt. I will be continuing to discuss Scripture with him on a weekly basis. It would really be a blessing for Matt (as well as myself) to see others of you as believers that are willing to spend an hour once every week or two discussing a chapter from the Bible with Matt over Skype, phone, etc. So my challenge is for at least a couple of you to step up and make such a commitment to discussing the Bible with Matt on a weekly or bi-weekly basis.

God bless,
Kirk