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Open Forum => Off-Topic => Topic started by: Master KChief on August 21, 2010, 09:35:49 PM
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anyone have some really good gift ideas for a significant other? more like a 'get out of the doghouse' kind of gift? :(
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Flowers-delivered to her workplace.
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i've done that many times before...it'll prolly look too cliche and might just look like im trying to suck up. anything else like 'whoa-spectacular' that will make her forget shes mad at me?
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Can you cook? If not try Chocolate. Or a diamond ring.
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Bucklers
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The best gift is a personal, sentimentally valuable one.
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flowers work nice, but you can't go over or under board with it.
If it's not serious, "cheap" AND personal is perfect.
For serious, have lunch, flowers, and/or homemade chocolates delivered to her work. If you don't mind spending a little cash, you could have a single rose delivered every hour during her work day with a short one or two line note complimenting her as if you were right in front of her looking at her.
.... in her mind, your thought and love is more "expensive" than the greenbacks in your back pocket ;)
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Can you cook? If not try Chocolate. Or a diamond ring.
no, i cant cook. shes grown tired of the chocolate i buy her (godiva, the best in the world). and i've already bought her a diamond ring in the past (http://www.cactusgamedesign.com/message_boards/index.php?topic=18269.0 (http://www.cactusgamedesign.com/message_boards/index.php?topic=18269.0)).
Bucklers
if only she knew what a buckler was, this just might get me out of the doghouse...
The best gift is a personal, sentimentally valuable one.
any suggestions? :(
For serious, have lunch, flowers, and/or homemade chocolates delivered to her work. If you don't mind spending a little cash, you could have a single rose delivered every hour during her work day with a short one or two line note complimenting her as if you were right in front of her looking at her.
.... in her mind, your thought and love is more "expensive" than the greenbacks in your back pocket ;)
i really liked your train of thought here. and yes, money is no object...im hoping to get on her good side quickly, even if it means shelling out some serious dough. :) keep them coming.
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Clean the house while she's out.
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Key us in to what she likes so we can help. EDIT: +1
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The best gift is a personal, sentimentally valuable one.
any suggestions? :(
Well, I don't know anything about your girlfriend, but if I were you, I would attempt to make or do something for her that she appreciates but that you wouldn't normally do. I really can't go much deeper than that without details, but in short, be original.
P.S. I am 16, and neither have had nor plan to have a girlfriend, so I'm possibly the worst person to take advice from on these boards (although I do watch a lot of movies). :P
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well, the idea should really come from you, if she asks, you don't want to tell her someone else thought it up and you don't wanna lie.
ps- jewelry is a HUGE NO.... just fyi
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well, the idea should really come from you, if she asks, you don't want to tell her someone else thought it up and you don't wanna lie.
ps- jewelry is a HUGE NO.... just fyi
how come jewelry is a no?
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Because Jewelry usually tips them off its to get out of trouble. Your girlfriend games doesn't she? Get her a game she has been really wanting. If she doesn't, get her something to help fuel whatever she is passionate about. EG if she loves MMORPGs paying for stuff for her game would be nice, or if she likes tennis a new racket would be nice.
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well, the idea should really come from you, if she asks, you don't want to tell her someone else thought it up and you don't wanna lie.
ps- jewelry is a HUGE NO.... just fyi
how come jewelry is a no?
I will never buy jewelry as a present for my wife. Not only is it extremely expensive, but it is equally impersonal. Depending on what life God leads me into, I might consider making her jewelry, but that is totally different.
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Depending on what life God leads me into, I might consider making her jewelry, but that is totally different.
Chain Mail. Make it yourself, it'll show her that you're willing to spend time on her.
Even if you're not good with cooking, homemade cookies (whatever kind is her favorite) can do wonders. Find a recipe online
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Because Jewelry usually tips them off its to get out of trouble. Your girlfriend games doesn't she? Get her a game she has been really wanting. If she doesn't, get her something to help fuel whatever she is passionate about. EG if she loves MMORPGs paying for stuff for her game would be nice, or if she likes tennis a new racket would be nice.
ooo, she went golfing today. perhaps golf clubs?
Even if you're not good with cooking, homemade cookies (whatever kind is her favorite) can do wonders. Find a recipe online
golf clubs and homemade cookies...killer combo!
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Because Jewelry usually tips them off its to get out of trouble. Your girlfriend games doesn't she? Get her a game she has been really wanting. If she doesn't, get her something to help fuel whatever she is passionate about. EG if she loves MMORPGs paying for stuff for her game would be nice, or if she likes tennis a new racket would be nice.
ooo, she went golfing today. perhaps golf clubs?
if that's what you're going with, make it creative. although, golf clubs are extremely expensive...you could however use golf balls and spell out "I'm sorry" or something with them, thus making her forget.
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You're really looking for something to show her you care, above all.
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yeah, and thats what im having trouble finding.
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Jewelry is a no because you can only give her so many pieces of jewelry. When you do it has to be extremely special and well invested. You cannot skimp out in any way in this genre of gift. Women prefer the sentimental value of their first smaller rock over their second larger one.
It also SCREAMS commitment, so you better be serious if you go that route.
I do a gazillion things for my girlfriend, small gifts, favors, etc scattered sporadically throughout our relationship.
If you want something small and thoughtful, that says "he really thought about this and loves me".....
HERE'S AN IDEA:
1. it doesn't matter if she "likes" it, because she'll LOVE the thought behind it
2. it will make her think about you
3. it won't scare her with the idea of commitment and it won't set her expectations too high
4. it will score MAJOR "AWWWWW!!!" points, which you can trade in for other points later on
Go to a local craft store and buy a piece of balsa wood. carefully carve a small flat heart out of the wood, about the size of a half dollar or quarter and 1/4 inch thick. You can use a pocket knife since balsa is very soft wood. carefully round all of the edges. You want it small enough to wear around a neck, but not so small it will break. then take a 5mm mechanical pencil and write I Love You on the front. When you write apply a little pressure and then go back and retrace the letters. The wood is soft enough that you'll imprint them. Then stain the wood. At this point, you could be done, or you could get a chain to put it on. Your choice.
Presentation is everything. Get a decent, non-brilliant white piece of construction paper, and cut out a small piece (4"x4"). It doesn't have to be square, but should be four-sided. Write a short one paragraph note telling her how much you think about her during your day. USE A SPECIFIC EXAMPLE. then leave it somewhere for her to find when you aren't around. you want her to find it and toy with it for at least an hour before she has a chance to thank you. bingo :)
it should only cost you $20 and an hour, and screams love, thought, and time
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man, thats a really awesome idea jaeger. im gonna run by the craft store and see if i can pull this one off!
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FYI, Copy pasted for future reference Jaeger. ;)
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I'm going to go against the grain here and say that the best gift you could give her in this situation is NOTHING.
If you give her jewelry or anything else (including the homemade heart necklace) that she will keep forever, then you are basically just giving something that will remind her for the rest of your relationship about that time when she was mad at you because you did whatever dumb thing you did.
The key to a healthy relationship is to be able to constructively resolve conflict. Giving a present to cover up a problem does not solve the problem. It's like putting a bandaid over a bullet hole, when the bullet is still inside. My suggestion here is that you take her out to eat and talk about whatever went wrong. Come up with a good solution to the situation that will be the plan for what to do in the future. It should be something that you both are relatively happy with, and which will be a realistic plan.
Then a week later (after this problem is ancient history), then give her a really special present to show her how much you value your relationship and how special she is to you. Then whenever she sees that present, she'll think of a positive instead of a negative.
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I'm going to go against the grain here and say that the best gift you could give her in this situation is NOTHING.
If you give her jewelry or anything else (including the homemade heart necklace) that she will keep forever, then you are basically just giving something that will remind her for the rest of your relationship about that time when she was mad at you because you did whatever dumb thing you did.
The key to a healthy relationship is to be able to constructively resolve conflict. Giving a present to cover up a problem does not solve the problem. It's like putting a bandaid over a bullet hole, when the bullet is still inside. My suggestion here is that you take her out to eat and talk about whatever went wrong. Come up with a good solution to the situation that will be the plan for what to do in the future. It should be something that you both are relatively happy with, and which will be a realistic plan.
Then a week later (after this problem is ancient history), then give her a really special present to show her how much you value your relationship and how special she is to you. Then whenever she sees that present, she'll think of a positive instead of a negative.
I forgot about the reason you were doing this, and I have to say I agree with Underwood. You don't want to giver her something to remind her of whatever you did, especially depending on the degree of badness.
I'd say wait a day, and apologize abut the time she thinks you've put it behind you, so she knows your really sorry and still thinking about it. Give her a massage to de stress her, and then wait another two days and do my idea. That way you'll hopefully be forgiven at that point, she will be trying to move past it, and hopefully the heart will shatter the memory of this event into oblivion.
KEY NOTE:
you CANNOT BUY FORGIVENESS WITH ANY TYPE OF ITEM. PERIOD. the forgiveness has to always come at least 2 days before any type of "apology gift". and when you give anyone an apology gift.... YOU DON'T. It's not an apology gift, it's an "I was thinking about you" gift ;)
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That, and you don't want her to associate her being angry with you giving gifts. That's trouble all around
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Last chance sencerio:Make a comfy doghouse(JK) Just listen to those guys. My advice ain't no good.
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That, and you don't want her to associate her being angry with you giving gifts. That's trouble all around
Hit the nail on the head.
The one time I messed up in my last relationship (and it was something really, really stupid), I simply drove over to her house unanounced, brought her sweet tea (something I knew was her favorite), and we just sat there and talked through everything. The night ended very well and I was glad I made the choice to drive over there.
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Don't listen to the nay sayers in this thread. Money can buy anything: Forgiveness, happiness, love, etc etc. You just need enough money. I suggest buying her a dolphin. How can anybody be sad/angry at you/disappointed in you/etc when you just gave them a DOLPHIN?!?!
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yeah, and thats what im having trouble finding.
I wouldn't worry about it to much man, I a mean you did create this thread and you are obviously trying to make up. You will find something. I almost wish she could see this thread....
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ooo, she went golfing today. perhaps golf clubs?
Do you seriously want to arm her with a bagful of weapons? Think that one through because, in my opinion, if she gets the slightest idea that your just giving her the clubs because she's mad at you, this is what I see: You running down the driveway with her in tow swinging a 9-iron like a madman and you ending up on the 6 o'clock news like Tiger Woods...
True, in a situation where the other party is upset at you, it's not best to simply give them a gift. If anything, whatever you choose to do, should involve both of you participating together and having ample opportunity to talk about the situation. My honest suggestion? Think of a nice fancy restaurant that you know she would love (Perhaps candlelight/to-go if her favorite place to eat isn't fancy/quiet), blindfold her, tell her you have a surprise for her, and say your taking her somewhere (Unless it's home... you can still blindfold her etc, but just get rid of the line where you're taking her somewhere). Then, once you reveal the "surprise" and get situated, ask her what you can do to fix what you did wrong and apologize for what you did if you haven't already. This will show that you don't intend to fix the problem with a night out, but rather, that you simply wanted a nice place to talk about what happened. As men/males/guys, we need to be able to "man-up" and discuss our problems. (Ladies are usually big on communication). It may seem a bit hard, but talking is what needs to be done, and if they (Ladies) know that discussing things like that is difficult for you, they will appreciate an attempt to talk about what happened more than any gift you could give them.
**Just a suggestion and in no way can I guarantee success. Every person is uniquely different and may respond differently. While Advice may work for some, it is not for everyone and you should consult The Love Doctor (God) before putting any plan into action. Advice is not intended to cure, diagnose, or treat any disease. These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration and all participation is at your own risk.**
-C_S
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Don't listen to the nay sayers in this thread. Money can buy anything: Forgiveness, happiness, love, etc etc. You just need enough money. I suggest buying her a dolphin. How can anybody be sad/angry at you/disappointed in you/etc when you just gave them a DOLPHIN?!?!
I'd totally forgive you if you gave me a dolphin. But first, you'd need to do something forgiveable.
Don't be mean unless you've got a dolphin handy.
I've never realized how hard it is to type "dolphin" until this post.
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thanks for all the great advise and support guys. me and her are doing alot better now that we did some good talking.
now all i gotta do is surprise her later next week with that extra special present. im currently leaning towards making the little balsa wood charm and making her cookies (even though im a terrible cook)...and the dolphin if i can find a place to keep it. ;)
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If she's not allergic to peanut butter, try this:
1 cup flour
1 cup sugar
1 cup peanut butter (Chunky is better)
enough water/oil that it mixes
bake at 350, until tasty.
Simple, tasty, gets the job done
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thanks for all the great advise and support guys. me and her are doing alot better now that we did some good talking.
now all i gotta do is surprise her later next week with that extra special present. im currently leaning towards making the little balsa wood charm and making her cookies (even though im a terrible cook)...and the dolphin if i can find a place to keep it. ;)
congrats
ps- depending on how much time you want to spend, you can always go with a harder type of wood. It would be more durable than balsa and might cost less as well. just fyi
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no eggs, salt, or butter?? ??? ???
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thanks for all the great advise and support guys. me and her are doing alot better now that we did some good talking.
now all i gotta do is surprise her later next week with that extra special present. im currently leaning towards making the little balsa wood charm and making her cookies (even though im a terrible cook)...and the dolphin if i can find a place to keep it. ;)
What your not? Why is your board name Master KChef then? ;)
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no eggs, salt, or butter?? ??? ???
Nope. It's really easy for novice cooks
What your not? Why is your board name Master KChef then? ;)
He's a Strikeout master, thus "Master K". The chef part is due to his "sizzling" fastball.
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hmm, i was gonna go with the regular cookie dough at the store. but you think making it from scratch would be better?
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Not to criticize SomeKittens, but (to me) it seems like his recipe would create fire, not cookies.
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hmm, i was gonna go with the regular cookie dough at the store. but you think making it from scratch would be better?
*Accepts that he will get -1'd* Defently not. Go with homemade. And I recomend a cookbook recipe.
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make it from scratch, but find a good recipe on foodnetworks website :)
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1 Devil's Food Cake Mix
2 eggs
Bit 'O Water (or Vodka. Your call)
Half cup of shortening
Powdered sugar
Combine everything, mix. Shape into fairly small balls. Roll in the powdered sugar. Bake at 375 until they're delicious (8 mins or so).
Thats a real cookie recipe... om nom nom
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1 Devil's Food Cake Mix
2 eggs
Bit 'O Water (or Vodka. Your call)
Half cup of shortening
Powdered sugar
Combine everything, mix. Shape into fairly small balls. Roll in the powdered sugar. Bake at 375 until they're delicious (8 mins or so).
Thats a real cookie recipe... om nom nom
Sorry, but I look at your profile picture, then the cookies, and back at your profile picture and it makes me wonder...
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Not to criticize SomeKittens, but (to me) it seems like his recipe would create fire, not cookies.
I've made it several times, once for my (then pre-)ex-girlfriend. They turn out dry and crumbling, but are really good if you make sure to add enough water.
Homemade sure does taste better, but will it get you more out of the doghouse? I doubt it. Just saying "I made these for you" should be enough.
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1 Devil's Food Cake Mix
2 eggs
Bit 'O Water (or Vodka. Your call)
Half cup of shortening
Powdered sugar
Combine everything, mix. Shape into fairly small balls. Roll in the powdered sugar. Bake at 375 until they're delicious (8 mins or so).
Thats a real cookie recipe... om nom nom
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what kind of cookies are these? also, does the vodka really make it taste better? :)
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1 Devil's Food Cake Mix
2 eggs
Bit 'O Water (or Vodka. Your call)
Half cup of shortening
Powdered sugar
Combine everything, mix. Shape into fairly small balls. Roll in the powdered sugar. Bake at 375 until they're delicious (8 mins or so).
Thats a real cookie recipe... om nom nom
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what kind of cookies are these? also, does the vodka really make it taste better? :)
Chocolate Crackle. Quick (shouldn't take more than 15 minutes) and delicious.
Vodka makes everything taste better. Try vodka vodka....
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vodka vodka vodka vodka africa?
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[slurred speech]The Minnesota drink official of.[/speech]
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I know you guys are joking, but let's not promote vodka here, ok?
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I know you guys are joking, but let's not promote vodka here, ok?
I'm not entirely sure they were all joking. haha. but i agree, let's not promote hard liquor on here
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Yeah... I don't suggest ever promoting alcohol because you never know if you can control it until you've had it, and once you've had it, if you can't control it, then you may have just ruined your life... Of course, I wouldn't put anything past the Lord, but the willpower of man/human beings/animals is weak, therefore, I don't suggest finding out. (Yes, there are cases where animals get intoxicated.)
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i have no problem with alcohol being used as part of culinary arts.
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I apologize to Cpt Jagger/Counter Sniper/Prof/Whoever else disagrees with my posts in this thred. I was merely joking and would never seriously suggest abusing alcohol. I understand how it is a serious subject and I'll try to be a bit more appropriate/sensitive in the future.
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i have no problem with alcohol being used as part of culinary arts.
Technically, the alcohol burns off. What's left is the flavor
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I don't necessarily disagree with your posts, but I don't necessarily condone it. Some under-age players (20 and - like myself) may not see the humor (I do see the humor), and may see it as "it's ok." It's all perception... Personally, I like a certain type of onion-rings, but I'll leave it up to those who care to discern which ones seeing as I agree that when used in culinary arts, the negative effects of alcohol are removed. But hey, Jesus drank wine, but He knew when and how to control His consumption of it. My family just has a nasty history with the stuff so I won't touch it outside of culinary preparation.
-C_S
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it's just that some pretty young kids come on these forums, so it's better no to really mention it at all, jokingly or not. you never know who may think what about what you said.
it's not a big problem though, nothing that we need to have some long out-of-proportion discussion over ;)
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[slurred speech]The Minnesota drink official of.[/speech]
No silly, it's the official drink of Russia
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it's not a big problem though, nothing that we need to have some long out-of-proportion discussion over ;)
No silly, it's the official drink of Russia
Now that's something we can have some long out-of-proportion discussion over.
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I apologize to Cpt Jagger/Counter Sniper/Prof/Whoever else disagrees with my posts in this thred. I was merely joking and would never seriously suggest abusing alcohol. I understand how it is a serious subject and I'll try to be a bit more appropriate/sensitive in the future.
Gladly forgiven, and I appreciate you saying this. It takes courage for someone to say they're sorry.